We are back with another installment of Freaky Facts, more specifically Bondage. The last post I had about bondage was fun but I have always felt that this is a never ending topic so we need to expound. Should we review the last post about bondage? No, I am going to follow the advice my brother gave me, "trust your audience". With that being said you can check it out if you need a refresher on what I'm talking about here - Bondage Around House.
So lets get started, shall we? First off I am a kink, a deviant, a 'whatever adds spice to sex' type of person. There is no judging and everyone likes what they like and that should be the end of it. Bondage is the greatest on so many levels because of the naughtiness required. There's something intoxicating about losing control to a partner. My goal is to show you how it can be done at home with success and with the greatest of pleasures.
In the BDSM world there is a style of bondage called Rope. Basically, it is the art of using actual rope for restraint and submission. Suspension is involved but I will not be going into that because you need Jedi level experience and training. What I do like about the idea of rope, is that you don't need a lot to restrain someone, it is all about how you tie them up that will make this work.
Today’s household play thing will be a regular tall backed chair, one used usually at the diner table or a desk. Suggestion number one, blind fold her for this, it will give the best results.
Everyone has at some point or another sat backwards in a chair. What you want to do is have her sit this way. Make sure she is wearing some type of disposable panties and bra or naked. You will be cutting them off if she has them on so make sure they are either purchased for this occasion, (spend the money guys or ladies, it’s worth it). The hope is that you do not have a massive throne style chair so that this position can work optimally. You will be using two of her watches or a watch and a bracelet. They will be on her wrists and you will use them to bind her hands to the chair with rope. Have her place her head on the back of the chair to gauge her position. You want her chin just above the back of the chair. Tie her hands to the upper corners of the chair, if the chair has no place to tie them, simply tie them together. Please don't try to have her wrists unite like a set of handcuffs, this isn't an episode of Cops as long as the tether that binds her hands are tight enough to restrict their movement great. The idea is that she still be able to hold the back of the chair when things get going.
Her feet will be bound by her shoes, more specifically heels that have a strap. Suggestion number two that can elevate your freak game, take the time to find out her shoe size and buy her a pair of shoes that suites the need (and that looks good too). If you can successfully find a shoe she actually likes and you bought it for this little sex foray than she may be up for something like this on the regular. If you like this stuff, THAT IS THE PURPOSE; that she loves it so much she wants to do this as often as you do. Please keep your wits and you may start something glorious.
Back to the shoes. You will tie them to the front legs of the chair with rope and the strap of her high-heels. If she looks like she is riding a motorcycle and it looks uncomfortable, she needs to slide that booty further off the chair so that she is more seated. The idea is that her vajay-jay hang just off the edge of her chair. It will allow for the best access and exposure.
For this part of the project you will need to devise a plan. You cannot just tie her up and then you're like, "so you like that? um...so". If you need guidance take a second to do some homework and put together a plan. For beginners here is a good guideline. Sensations, spontaneity, and penetration. If she has panties on you will have to cut them off, so you will need scissors. Make sure they can cut what your cutting, BE PREPARED! If she has oils that she likes, use them on the exterior of her person only. I personally like using scented lubrication because you just can't stick anything inside the vagina and at least lubrication takes the guess work out of it. Give that booty a slap, give those nipples a pinch, for every action that brings discomfort you MUST pleasure her. Even if it is slightly. It's give and take, a slap brings sharp pain, titillation is the reward. Most importantly when she is aroused and you're playing with her, you don't want her to cum. You're fired if you make her finish before you're done. The whole point is that this turns into an event that takes some time to complete. This is called Edging. I could write for days on how wonderful Edging is but for this post we will just describe it as, playing with her and not finishing her. Remember that you can also use vibrators too, they will push her fast to the edge so unless you are skilled at it, it's just a suggestion but not necessary. You can put your phone in a sandwich baggie if you don't have a vibrator. There are apps you can download on to your phone that can simulate a vibrator. You shouldn't have an issue with going to buy one either, that would be dumb. Who wouldn't want to buy tools for sexing? Lastly, before we move on to the grand finally of this sexual opus, make her tell you when she is about to cum. One, it's unbelievably sexy when a woman says those wonderful words but it also tells you when to stop. Slap her on the ass one good time and make her promise to tell you when she is cumming; tell her she is 'not allowed to finish until you say so'.
Hopefully we fast forward to a point where she is begging you to finish her or she is extremely happy/horny and you think it is time that she have an orgasm. You can do one of a few things. This is a beginners level event, so you can simply ask her to tell you to give her an orgasm, or to say anything sexy that begs for release. Be smart with what you want her to say, in the heat of things she may say anything but she will have to live with it. Don't have her say dumb shit. If the chair is short enough or you are tall enough you can have her suck on you to finish her, it could be a trade but this is not Barter Town so you could just reward her with an epic finish to a nicely executed bondage/edging fest.
Who has the power in a BDSM relationship? The one who is dominant or the one who is submissive? Think about that and enjoy bondage around the house.
~Ivory
